Back talk is a problem in our house with the lads. It’s become almost second nature to them these days. I know, hard to believe such amazing little people can have such sinful natures, isn’t it? 🙂 It’s one of those things, just about even with whining that sets my blood boiling. Arg! No one likes back talky kids. Everyone has seen parents somewhere struggling with a kid who has a disrespectful mouth.
So we have been working on this struggle for them. I can’t say I’ve had any enormous break throughs recently except that my own reaction/response needs working on first of all. I recently “attended” a webinar by this lady who hosts Positive Parenting Solutions. It’s a psychology based approach to parenting, and while, I’m sure there are things tucked in there that I wouldn’t necessarily agree with, but at the same time there is a lot of good stuff. Stuff that I have read from time to time in the Christian parenting books I have gone through. And sometimes it’s nice to have some resource to look at that gives you a slightly different approach. I’ve had a few… more than a few days recently where I’ve felt completely defeated and ineffective as a parent. I go to bed thinking the entire day or even week has been a complete failure where my input in raising our kids is concerned.
The webinar gave me a few things to think about with consequences, and maybe I’ll share those on here sometime soon too, because it made sense to me. Also something that has been hitting home a lot for me is the “one on one” time with the kids. I really do think that I’d see a big change in the monkeys if I would purposely give them more one on one time. It’s easier with Qade now that he has school that I help him with, but I need to carve out time for each of them every day and make it a positive time. That can be difficult on days where they are jumping on my buttons, and they know how to do it too! 🙂 It feels like the last thing I want to do is sit down and cuddle, or tickle or play trains. But it’s so important that I do.
Anyway, here’s an article by the gal I mentioned with the webinar…. sorry I don’t remember her name, and I’m too lazy to look it up right now, but it’s a good article about back talk and how to deal with it. I’m going to read it again, and start implementing some of the steps right away. 🙂 I’ll let ya know how it goes.