Male Bonding

It’s official, I have been replaced. I am no longer the “premiere parent” in our little man’s life. 🙁 Fortunately I can be happy about my replacement. I don’t have to watch my baby bond with the preschool teacher, or the babysitter, or anyone so unrelated to us. No, I’ve been usurped by my very wonderful husband. I knew that it would happen sometime. Little boys need their dads, and at some point in their early toddler years they go through a definate bonding time with the man in their life. I suppose I should have seen it coming just because we were having another baby. That’s certainly something that would propel Qade more toward Daddy for sure. BUT tonight when I was feeding Myles, and Qade came in looking all around, I asked him where he was going and he said, “Da-da,” and proceeded to search the house for his dad. Stuart has been such an awesome help to me these weeks since Myles arrival. I know I couldn’t do it without him. He has really taken charge with Qade especially, (I mean, it’s not like he can feed Myles whenever) and has helped him a TON with his attitude adjustments and just learning to deal with the new family dynamic. So now Qade gets the greatest kick just hanging out with his dad. They have oodles of fun together, wrestling, cleaning up toys, playing basketball outside, hauling wood and just about anything they can do together is great fun. I on the other hand get more whines, and tears, and fits, but that’s because I’m mom, who gets food, snacks, and drinks ready (only not always on demand- hence the fits) instead of being Mr. Fun like Daddy. 🙂 It’s different, and I have to go through my own adjustments to our new family dynamic, but I have to say that I’m very glad that Stuart and Qade have each other, and I’m so thankful that I have them both too!